Taking the ebbs with the flow

20 September 2014
Written by Vanessa Kenny
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Vanessa Kenny shares her thoughts on dealing with life’s up and downs, reflecting that stressful times are part of life's journey and can offer great wisdom


“To be complete a healing system must be able to cover the entire field of human experiences - physically, mentally, and spiritually. Any system which denies any part of this trinity fails in its attempt to heal to the same extent to which it denies any part or parts.”  Stanley Burroughs

So what to do when life throws us a mud ball - broken relationships, losing a job, illness in family and friends, losing an animal - actually any kind of loss is pretty trying and can send even the most robust personalities into a spin. Most can testify to more than one of these situations that ‘try the pants off us' at the best of times.

We all have our ways of dealing with situations that lead to stress or as I would call it ‘out of alignment’; meaning mentally, physically and spiritually not quite all working simultaneously as they should. It’s a tough old world at times and finding the gifts in the murky waters can be mighty hard sometimes especially when s**t hits the fan. It’s all we can do to get out of bed and if honest we may just want to hide our heads under the covers and just stay there …or is that just me?!

Keeping in the flow and knowing that things are always changing is difficult - things die, move on, change, expand, grow...did I mention change!  So on and on it goes, what can one but do? Accept the facts and deal with them? I may be the master of my little universe but I cannot stop the tides from changing much as I might like; anyway if life is not filled with ups and downs there is no growth - just a flat line that doctors would interpret as dead, and who wants that?

Breathing is a good place to start; if I’m breathing how hard can life be? Movement is another powerful way to push through the murk, go for a walk. Surrender...umm tricky but vital... things are changing constantly. Remember there is no use in holding on. My good friend Sally Dutton (MyMag April 2013 issue) is good for this part; helping to release the holding patterns of the body. Create a new reality, imagine, focus, visualise something better. If I can visualise it - it must be possible! Well that’s my theory anyway.

As always we have some trusty New Zealand Native Plant essences to help enhance our experiences when life gets tricky.

  • Kakabeak- when life is out of balance, 
  • Akeake - when in a state of shock,  
  • Puriri – for inner conflict, 
  • Golden Corokia – mid life crises.. PLEaSe...already!

The beauty with essences is that they do cover our entire field of human experience working on all levels of our being; physically, mentally, spiritually, so we always have more than just our own will power (which is usually weak when feeling low) at our disposal to create a more robust being to take on the mud that flies our way.

My belief is that there is a bigger picture at play which we are not always party to unfortunately, so my guess is as-good-as-yours as to what might show up in our life to test these little mind, body and souls. 

All I can do is try to enjoy the ride and take the jewels where I can find them... somewhere in the mud!  Trust me they are there, I’ve found a few and so good luck to you.


  • For Reiki Healing, Therapeutic Massage and Flower Essence Consultations at clinic or via e-mail please contact Vanessa Kenny
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    phone: 06-364 3992 
    or txt: 027-4930988
  • First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand® were co-created by Franchelle Ofsoske-Wyber and Tony Wyber. In 2008, Franchelle was awarded the New Zealand Health Industry Distinguished Services Award for Research and Development.



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